I was born a wild free-spirited tom-boy to progressive parents in the UK. As a teenager I was rebellious and flirtatious with obviously high ‘eros’, I gained my wholesome perspective of liberated sexuality from my parents, especially my dad who was incredibly grounded and celebrated my womanhood and sexual evolution. I was trusted by both my parents with the freedom to choose my own path – which was wise given my untameable spirit. 

But, at the tender age of 17, that girl “died”.

I was drugged and raped as a virgin. Then one month later, still out of my centre, I succumbed to the bullying tactics of my alpha trampolining coach. My dreams had been on track for the UK Olympic Trampolining squad. But my coach coerced me into attempting a difficult manoeuvre without the required safety equipment. I fell badly, sustaining a catastrophic life-long spinal injury. I smashed my lumbar spine, prolapsed five discs, fractured my thoracic and cervical spine in seven other places and ripped my entire back musculature from coccyx to occiput. I was blessedly not paralysed but never call me lucky – my life as I knew it was over. My heart, body and spirit were broken and I was but a shadow of my former self. 

I entered a long, long period of darkness. I didn’t want to live in this body, that was so broken and in excruciating pain, every moment of the next 11 years, the desire to die and the ever-present pain never let up. But at 17 I knew that suicide would have devastated my little brother. My love for him and my refusal to put my pain on him kept me soldiering on. (Sadly, in 2021 he died, too young at 52 after his journey with cancer.)

I did my Honours Psychology/Anthropology BSc, followed by a PhD research on play behaviour and the emergent self, with monkeys on the African Savanah. Throughout this time, I was in constant pain, even with prescribed painkillers. Not many knew, even fewer how often I desired to exit this life. I still seemed and sometimes was the happy “life and soul of the party” girl. My father was not so resilient, he took his own life at 59, I was just 29.

My life-long natural way with men, often had me labeled as a slut by the women. But my positive sexual attitude and rebellious nature, along with my rock-solid male fraternity, always got me through. The natural ecstatic drugs that come with great sex, were my only moments of pain relief. Let’s face it… I got really good at it! It was my only way out. I chose to focus too, on my hunger to rise out of my darkness, to find my path to pleasure and freedom, in simply ‘doing the work’.

My Bowen Therapy Chapter

After my PhD I embarked upon a working holiday to Australia where I found Bowen Therapy and my world changed forever. I was finally pain-free for a few hours the very next day. My sky had changed colour. Within months I was pretty much pain-free and off all meds. I decided to train in this great modality. I studied with my usual devotion and two years later in 1993 after being the first Bowen therapist in Europe, I was appointed by the founders of the Bowen Academy to be their first trainer world-wide. For the following 15 years I trained therapists in the UK and Australia, giving the transmission of the deepest form of Bowen work. I still do one on one coaching when asked. Training is something I consider to be one of my greatest joys and talents. I still need to take great care of my back and have regular Bowen. I listen to its needs, in constant awareness of what it can and cannot hold (its definitely the boss), but with this depth of care, I’m now mostly pain-free and flexible at the the sexy age of 60.

Constellations

I first experienced classic Family Constellations in 2005 and was hooked from the start. I had searched for modalities to help my emotional and mental well-being for decades and I knew this was it, just like Bowen was and still is for my body. I quickly became an organiser creating workshops and training with over a dozen facilitators. I finally began facilitating at the insistence of one of my trainers. I had “represented” in over 700 constellations by then. Over the next 10 years of facilitating throughout Australia and the UK, I would have led over 1000 constellations, each one transformational and life-changing. My Shamanic Constellations have been my greatest passion these past few years. In 2022 I was invited to present at the International Constellation Intensive: Sexuality and Money. It was a milestone in my journey with this incredible modality and a fabulous showcase of my “Triple-blind” methodology and expansive way of facilitating. Now, after many have asked me for years to offer a training in my eclectic style, this is finally manifesting too.

My Relating

My style of relating has been like my life in general – to listen and follow the aliveness that shows me the way. My commitment is to Divine Love and keeping the connection fully alive with Eros, devotion and awesome communication.

I go deep quickly, no mucking around! Lovers and partners have often expressed that our connection changed them forever, setting a new benchmark for love. For 30 years I related monogamously. Over that time I had two children as a sole parent. My relating with them now as adults gives me immense joy. My intimate relationships I now call “loverships,” communicating with ethical transparency to attain "higher-ogamy".

The Gyuto Tantric Monks of Tibet were a big part of my life for 20 years (I organised cultural programs for local communities). They taught me that Tantra was the direct path of love and named me Dakini Sky Dancer.

Sexuality, Tantra and ecstatic Sacred Union is my drug of choice and a favourite pastime along with inspiring others to connect with their Eros, holding a workshop or training!

My life now is exquisite. It is not always filled with pleasure as I choose to feel everything deeply in this path of growth and expansion. I still fall, as we all do. Every time I feel the excruciating growing pains of shedding yet another layer deeper, revealing more truth, joy and freedom on the other side. It’s always worth the challenge and always there is the access through my embodied, playful, shamanic, connection, in Sacred Union of self and others, that leads to the ecstasies that have become my doorway to God. That leads me home – to my true Self.

I stand for freedom. I stand for the the inner sacred union of masculine and feminine in every being. I stand for sexual liberation and freeing this shame in society.

Above all – I stand for Love.